We told them to just say “No”….
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dad2twins on Feb 15, 2008 in Did I ask for your advice?, Farty Pants Twins, Featured
My kids are dealing with a bully. This bully happens to be the child of one of my wifes friends. This little girl is my kids age and they often play together. This little girl is a sweet girl when she is NOT hitting my kids or any kids in the vicinity.
We have been teaching the Farty Pants twins to say No. Now the girls know that when this little girl comes up to them with her fury in her eyes, the Farty Pants twins hold up their hand and say NO! Don’t hit.
It hasn’t really worked. The mother of this girl grabs her and puts her in timeouts whenever she catches her little girl doing this, but it hasn’t changed her behavior at all.
So, they were off to play with this little girl this morning and as Reese was walking out the door she was reminding Kiera to just say “No” when the little girl comes to hit them. I find this sad but at least my girls know how to defend themselves with class.
Have you had these situations in your play groups with your kids? Any solutions that you have that have worked?
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UGH. Fortunately, we haven’t really had to deal with any of this. The kids my own children have played with and play with now have all been top notch. But when Hannah was two, I often took her to play with my friend’s little girl who was a year older. This girl was THE biggest brat, although she has turned into a lovely girl. I’m not sure what provokes hitting, but perhaps she’s doing it to get attention, which she obviously gets when her mother yanks her away for a timeout.
Good for you and your wife, and good for your kids, for handling the situation so well. If it were me, I’d be livid. Think “The Hand That Rocks the Cradle” livid.
Lis Garrett | Feb 15, 2008 | Reply
Well okay since you asked, we seem to have a similar problem with these two TWIN girls : ) hee hee. One is always taking things from our two girls, so we are also trying to teach our girls to take things back and say no. : )
I thought you would get a kick out of this one. : )
Kirsten | Feb 15, 2008 | Reply
What a tough situation. Some littleones just don’t know how to express themselves. My best friends daughter had a sharing problem. It took a while but we eventually got her to share by telling her that SM couldn’t play with her if she wasn’t willing to share her toys. We also let her know that sharing was temporary, this eased her fears that SM was going to KEEP her toys.
Mommy Bits aka ShannanB | Feb 17, 2008 | Reply
I’m so sorry
My heart breaks for your little girls because I was bullied constantly as a child and it just sucks. I don’t have any answers for you other than teaching your girls how to “handle” things like you have already done, beyond that the best I can suggest is talking to her parents which it seems wouldn’t be that much help either since they’re not always around? Perhaps asking that this bully be supervised by an adult or telling your girls to stay in reach of an adult at all times but it doesn’t seem very practical…sorry i’m rambling in your comments 
Amy | Feb 18, 2008 | Reply